another funeral

it's time to pull out all our funeral clothes again. January 27 my other grandma passed away. this is my mom's mom. the pic on the left is 4 years old. when she passed she was barely eating and probably weighed around 70 lbs. but she was blessed to live 91 years, to be married for 69 years, have 5 daughters,12 grandchildren, and 20 great grandchildren. plus she could sew like no body's business! my most prized procession came from her. one christmas she made all her grandchildren blankets. it is known as favorite blankie in my house. it is the kind of blanket that keeps you warm in the winter and cool in the summer. i think what i will remember most about my grandma is the love she had for my mom. the way she would look at my mom was pure love. i hope my mom saw that and remembers this in her grief.
                                                                       God speed, grandma

in other news holly has qualified for state final in bowling. it will be in may in monroe. i was really surprised to hear this because holly has the lowest bowling average in the league. but what made her qualify is how much she goes over her average in the past two weeks. and as of late she has been bowling like she is on fire! this really will be an awesome experience for her. win or lose her bowling has improved so much! and that is what i hope she is most proud of.

this has been a word from nicole and dinky the scar

outside...freezing cold outside. as i told my sister today it is double nipply cold day. i didn't even take gordy with me when i went to pick the kids up from school.

what i learned...it doesn't look to good when your oldest child comes home from school (after having a half day of school) and u are just waking up at 11 a m

around the house...jay is sleeping, holly is roller skating and chatting online, andrew is sitting behind me waiting to use the computer, matty is watching the lost world.

plans for the weekend...the weekend got off to a great start. we treated ourselves to dinner at joe's crab shack. holly and andrew did not get seafood. which makes me wonder what they think in the kitchen when people order anything but seafood. when u go to a seafood resturant don't u get seafood? jay got crab legs, matty got fishsticks and i got some yummy salmon with a pineapple glaze, with potatoes and green beans as a side. oh my! soooo good. holly has her bowling league saturday morning. also on saturday i plan on grocery shopping at meijers. i heard some peanut butter was on sale for 99 cents. also have holly's science project to help her with.

what i am making...not quite at the making stage but i am gathering everything i need to start my chicago scrapbook. the book will start with a pic of me and nicole at the muesum in 1987, then go on to other trips i made to the windy city.

i am thankful for...theresa who blogged this way and i just love it and her!

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and there she goes

sunday we were in grand rapids for my grandma's visitation. i don't know what kind of person aspires to do make up on the dead but whoever does it for this particular funeral home should retire. my grandma had so much blush on her cheeks it was borderline clown makeup. however, who ever picked out her outfit did a perfect job. it was a blouse and blazer done in shades of purple. my grandma wore purple very well. i spent a good deal of time chatting it up with my cousins becky and cheryl. at the close of the visitation my dad read a letter my grandma wrote to us back in 2003. it was very grandma. it was like she was standing there speaking to us. (choke,sob) then my dad handed out pieces of jewelry to each granddaughter. (stop the madness!) in my manila envelope was two boxes. i opened the small box to find a emerald ring that once belonged to my great great grandma and a broach that my grandpa gave my grandma on their 10th wedding anniversary in 1950. (ahhhhhh!) i couldn't even open the second box. later i did and in it was a bracelet and matching earrings for holly, my grandma's brother had given to her upon graduation (i think it was college graduation).
Monday morning was the funeral. it was exactly what my grandma would have wanted. two of my cousins sang two songs. during the second song, amazing grace, they broke down crying and everyone in the church finished the song together. one of the things the minster said was, "the world is a better place for having Marion havens in it." i have heard this before but was never sure if it was true. i know it is true for my grandma. after she retired from teaching she was volunteering for everything in her church or at the hospital. in fact, in the 80's the grand rapids' newspaper wrote an article about her. after the funeral there was a luncheon at the church. i know for a fact my grandma would have hated what they served small sandwiches, chips, fruit and horrible punch. my dad and his brothers had to pay for that slop put on by the church. just horrible. me and Diane could have made a better meal than that, even in our grief!
so now here i am, at home and awaiting another call. my mom's mother is dying. i will be surprised if she lives out the month. then there is my mom's dad who is also dying. hospice has come into the home, so really it's at anytime i will putting my funeral clothes back on and driving to grand rapids again.

this has been a word from nicole

PS dinky is now a scab. 

R.I.P.

my grandma died yesterday around noon, she was 95 years old. when i saw that it was my dad calling all i could think was,"the longer i put off answering the phone the longer i will be her granddaughter." i  cried when he told me. someone who loves me has died. my grandma was probably the most consistent person i will ever know. i always knew how she felt about me...about anyone. she was very slow to anger and rarely said a harsh word against anyone. she was my role model. as far as i'm concerned she had it right- God then family.
i remember one time running to the side door of her house, ringing her doorbell, quickly opening the door and galloping into her kitchen (i was probably 8) to find her rushing to her door to greet all of us. she had the biggest smile on her face when she saw me. my little heart burst with joy because i could see how much she loved me. that is the memory i will carry with me always. along with her blueberry muffins, grapes, french toast, and club sandwiches. yeah, my grandma always had the best food. many a night we had ice cream sundaes or cereal after taking our baths. my grandma was great fun and a great love.

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facebook grip

let's get this straight. i love facebook. i love checking to see what my friends are up to. i like the funny posts my son writes. i like playing farmville, frontierville and cityville. i love looking at all the pictures people post. i get a glimpse into people lives that i wouldn't otherwise. however, there is one thing that iterates me to no end! why to people post songs to their love ones that have died? why do they writes something to the deceased on the anniversary of their death? are they looking for something that they cannot get from the people who are physically around them? my 95 year old grandma (my favorite grandma) is at death's door or maybe just on his porch. anyhow, she is dying. but i will not be posting anything about that. not on the day she dies or a year from now. my grief and my happiness are my own. my memories are best shared with family not with an indifferent facebook.

i guess i just don't understand, maybe i'm to old or just not hip. it looks just plain needy when people are posting thing for someone who has died.

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dinky

i have a new pimple between my eyes and i have named him dinky. this is the third pimple between my eyes since christmas. so the trend will continue for another week or so.
today i took gordy over to chris's so she could trim his killer toenails. those suckers were so long i thought maybe he would need to wear high heels so he could walk with his long toenails. afterwards, gordy was able to go outside and play with their dog, lily.
jay, matty and i went out to eat for lunch at bob evans (down on the farm). service was sooooo slooooow! but the food was good. the last time i was there was 2005. i think i will wait another 5 years before i go back.

this has been a word from Nicole and Dinky

sunday

up at 7:30 am
made a yummy breakfast of scrambled eggs, cheese and sausage
church with holly at 11:30 (really wish i was a morning person so i could enjoy an earlier mass)
toys r us with holly after mass to spend her $25 gift card from katie and kelsey
home for lunch...loleth's fried rice with bread
nap
got up and put christmas decorations away, not the tree that will be tomorrow
got taco bell for dinner, ding...think outside the bun
now computer time with andrew breathing down my neck to get back on
school tomorrow for andrew and holly! summer is on it's way!!

this has been a word from Nicole

new year

HAPPY NEW YEAR! to start off the new year i am sporting a tiny pimple between my eyes. maybe this will be a trend that other will pick up this year. here's hopin'! i always have loved Jan. 1. it just shouts new beginnings and possibilities. i do want this year to be different from last year and one thing i hope to grow in is faith. most likely this blog with have my questions, concerns, frustrations with faith. not that i don't have it but i want it to grow and flourish. hopefully, this is the year that it will.

this has been a word from Nicole